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12-04-2019 04:55 PM
12-04-2019 04:55 PM
Encouraging or is it enabling?
Sisiter with SZ. Lives on own but parents did all (shop, clean, organize, fransport). One parent had health crises, other now carer. Expectation that I replace & do all. Have own life, kids, job etc & getting resentful 😞 Started sayiing No.
Parents think they allowing her independance. They have taken on al the responsibilty. Without it, the management of her life will crumble like a pack of cards.
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12-04-2019 06:45 PM
12-04-2019 06:45 PM
Re: Encouraging or is it enabling?
Hi @Bea, that sounds like you are in a tough position with your family. Have you been able to discuss your concerns previously with your parents?
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12-04-2019 08:32 PM
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12-04-2019 11:38 PM
12-04-2019 11:38 PM
Re: Encouraging or is it enabling?
Thanks also Shaz51. It was getting too much for them but luckily the NDIS came along & I helped fhem transition somewhat to getting some outside the family help. We joke & call it "the staff", "chauffeur" & "chaperone" between us & are SUPER grateful there is some funding for support workers.
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12-04-2019 11:53 PM
12-04-2019 11:53 PM
Re: Encouraging or is it enabling?
What happened to their common sense?
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13-04-2019 01:05 PM
13-04-2019 01:05 PM
Re: Encouraging or is it enabling?
Good luck with your chat today @Bea, we're here if you need to come on and talk about it. It sounds like your parents are very sweet and focused on family.
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13-04-2019 02:02 PM
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16-04-2019 01:49 PM
16-04-2019 01:49 PM
Re: Encouraging or is it enabling?
Hearing you loud and clear about your questioning what is enabling or encouraging ....
A sibling should not carry the same reesponsibility or duty as parents.
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18-04-2019 04:25 PM
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18-04-2019 04:29 PM
18-04-2019 04:29 PM
Re: Encouraging or is it enabling?
@Bea, my mum is a very strong and indepentent woman
took herr a long time to accept meals on wheels and other help around the house , I still do a lot of it xx